It’s time to get past the fat tropes and complicate “fat”. It’s not a state of being, a character defect or a joke. It’s a medical condition that needs attention and also compassion. My takeaway from all of this is that “fatness” doesn’t preclude happiness. You have a right to be happy, fat or thin. However, we each have to claim and create space for our happiness. Part of happiness is treating ourselves well, no matter how others speak about us. The word “fat” needs complicating and compassion at the same time.
The reason that I am strongly body positive is that I want to feel good about myself as I make lifestyle changes that support my overall health. I have always had a higher BMI. “Skinny” is not in my genes, but “healthy” can be in my habits and my choices.
Note: These Botero-inspired, body positive fashion images are NSFW. They are also not safe for preserving outmoded paradigms of what a woman’s body should be. We are born naked and when we die, our bodies are stripped, examined and prepared for burial. Between birth and death, we are contextualized and classified by fashion. It isContinue reading “Born Naked, Annihilated by Fashion…til now”
When I was in 3rd grade, I broke my left arm. I fell off a swing backwards on the playground and snapped my left ulna. The bone was set properly. It seemed to heal quickly. Flash forward a few decades, it’s giving me trouble when I do Wheel Pose during yoga. I’ve had an on-again,Continue reading “The Old Injury. The New Perspective.”
When Yi asked me to climb on her conference room table, I didn’t hesitate.
This past week, Yi Zhou, founder of Global Intuition, a fast-rising international fashion brand, invited me to her headquarters in Beverly Hills for a body positive photo shoot.
We have to embody the world we want to see. If we want less hate, less judgment and more compassion, then we have to hug more. We have to smile more. We have to shake hands more. Sometimes, though, it’s hard to be “in” our bodies. Our society privileges the mental and we become mental. Continue reading “In Body, Embody”
When was the last time you thoroughly enjoyed something, fully present, with abandon? So many of us would have a hard time identifying a moment, simply because we’re mired in work and doing and being stressed out. Are you guilty? I am! In the new year, I’m making my pleasure a priority. What’s giving meContinue reading “Pleasure Matters”
I’ve been talking more lately, and not because I’ve been feeling chatty. I’ve realized how much I’ve kept under wraps and repressed to keep the peace and to just get along. Frankly, it’s one of the worst things I’ve ever done to myself. Silencing myself has been a huge burden. I’ve been grieving. I’ve beenContinue reading “Silence Is Not Always Golden”
Your opinion of me is none of my business. That was one of my biggest lessons and pains in the last two years. What other people think of me doesn’t matter. It’s hard to get people to change their opinions or what they think they “know”. At the end of the day, what you thinkContinue reading “Your Opinion of Me is None of My Business”