It’s time to get past the fat tropes and complicate “fat”. It’s not a state of being, a character defect or a joke. It’s a medical condition that needs attention and also compassion. My takeaway from all of this is that “fatness” doesn’t preclude happiness. You have a right to be happy, fat or thin. However, we each have to claim and create space for our happiness. Part of happiness is treating ourselves well, no matter how others speak about us. The word “fat” needs complicating and compassion at the same time.
Note: These Botero-inspired, body positive fashion images are NSFW. They are also not safe for preserving outmoded paradigms of what a woman’s body should be. We are born naked and when we die, our bodies are stripped, examined and prepared for burial. Between birth and death, we are contextualized and classified by fashion. It isContinue reading “Born Naked, Annihilated by Fashion…til now”
When Yi asked me to climb on her conference room table, I didn’t hesitate.
This past week, Yi Zhou, founder of Global Intuition, a fast-rising international fashion brand, invited me to her headquarters in Beverly Hills for a body positive photo shoot.
Your opinion of me is none of my business. That was one of my biggest lessons and pains in the last two years. What other people think of me doesn’t matter. It’s hard to get people to change their opinions or what they think they “know”. At the end of the day, what you thinkContinue reading “Your Opinion of Me is None of My Business”
It’s amazing to me how much we buy based on our insecurity. We buy creams to “correct” wrinkles. We buy makeup to hide “flaws”. We spend money on all sorts of costly cosmetic treatments to beat aging. We buy into diet program after diet program to keep weight off, instead of dealing with the “why”Continue reading “Fears Separate Us from Our Prosperity”
You know that person that uses the same picture from ten years ago on all their social media profiles? That picture than shows them 15 pounds lighter, not as wrinkled, and probably at a wedding or some other special occasion where they are made up or dressed to the nines? That person may have aContinue reading “That One Special Picture”
Scales and tape measurers have never been my faves. Anytime I’ve had to deal with either, it’s always with a small sense of dread. Am I measuring up? So often, I believe, that the impulse to measure up is rooted in an unacknowledged inadequacy. Being “too big”, “too hippy”, “too busty”, not busty enough, etContinue reading “Measuring Up”