It’s time to get past the fat tropes and complicate “fat”. It’s not a state of being, a character defect or a joke. It’s a medical condition that needs attention and also compassion. My takeaway from all of this is that “fatness” doesn’t preclude happiness. You have a right to be happy, fat or thin. However, we each have to claim and create space for our happiness. Part of happiness is treating ourselves well, no matter how others speak about us. The word “fat” needs complicating and compassion at the same time.
The reason that I am strongly body positive is that I want to feel good about myself as I make lifestyle changes that support my overall health. I have always had a higher BMI. “Skinny” is not in my genes, but “healthy” can be in my habits and my choices.
When Yi asked me to climb on her conference room table, I didn’t hesitate.
This past week, Yi Zhou, founder of Global Intuition, a fast-rising international fashion brand, invited me to her headquarters in Beverly Hills for a body positive photo shoot.
We have to embody the world we want to see. If we want less hate, less judgment and more compassion, then we have to hug more. We have to smile more. We have to shake hands more. Sometimes, though, it’s hard to be “in” our bodies. Our society privileges the mental and we become mental. Continue reading “In Body, Embody”
When was the last time you thoroughly enjoyed something, fully present, with abandon? So many of us would have a hard time identifying a moment, simply because we’re mired in work and doing and being stressed out. Are you guilty? I am! In the new year, I’m making my pleasure a priority. What’s giving meContinue reading “Pleasure Matters”
Your opinion of me is none of my business. That was one of my biggest lessons and pains in the last two years. What other people think of me doesn’t matter. It’s hard to get people to change their opinions or what they think they “know”. At the end of the day, what you thinkContinue reading “Your Opinion of Me is None of My Business”
“If only….” How often do we say that to ourselves, “If only I had____,” or “If only _________would happen”? Today is the day to stop waiting for something or someone. There are no ideal circumstances. Most of life is dusted with a bit of chaos. It’s how we respond to the chaos and the fragmentationContinue reading “Choose Happiness. Choose Cheese.”
It’s amazing to me how much we buy based on our insecurity. We buy creams to “correct” wrinkles. We buy makeup to hide “flaws”. We spend money on all sorts of costly cosmetic treatments to beat aging. We buy into diet program after diet program to keep weight off, instead of dealing with the “why”Continue reading “Fears Separate Us from Our Prosperity”
It’s so hard to stay in the moment. It’s easy to obsess over the past or ruminate about the future–the should-s, the could-s, the would-s–but the present is a very elusive thing. For me, part of being more body positive is getting more present, heavy or not, plus size or not. There’s a lot ofContinue reading “Where Are You Now?”