“Couples who have quincunx signs — signs that are 150 degrees apart — have tremendous difficulties relating,” Kristin West, celebrity astrology expert, tells Bustle. “They are neither similar or complementary.”
You know that person that uses the same picture from ten years ago on all their social media profiles? That picture than shows them 15 pounds lighter, not as wrinkled, and probably at a wedding or some other special occasion where they are made up or dressed to the nines? That person may have a body image issue or at least a problem living in the NOW. That person may or may not be you, but many people have this issue.
It’s heartbreaking to me that many people choose a photo from their more distant past as their profile photos. It’s like they can’t accept or acknowledge fully where they are today. Our whole personhood is not dictated by one image. There’s no perfect image of us. We change each day. Too many of us privilege that “one special photo” of us and can’t stop to appreciate the beauty of our maturation, the beauty of our experience. Some are even ashamed to put up a more current photo because of how they think others will react to their picture.
The next time you’re tempted to put up a photo from your not-too-recent-past as a profile photo, question your motives. Are you trying to escape what you perceive to be your shortcomings in the present? Do you feel the pressures of ageism? Do you feel like the past was somehow better? Our social profiles are now the face we show to the world. Less and less, we interact in person. Computing has diminished the need to go to coffee with someone. We can chat through a small window. We don’t have to give someone our full attention if we don’t care to. That small chat window also tricks us into believing that we somehow “save face”. We can project that idealized version of ourselves from 10 or 15 years ago without much consequence.
It’s time to embrace who we are today, with our wrinkles and cellulite, with all the “flaws”. We are more than one image, frozen in time. We are living, breathing, maturing, evolving persons and we should all celebrate who we are NOW, today.
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On this show, I cover the hottest headlines and few that I feel deserve more attention too. I also cover the latest Hollywood celeb dish and there’s no lack of fun with some improv thrown in too. In this past week alone, the show has taken on the flu epidemic in the US, killer whales’ newly discovered ability for mimicry, the origins of Ground Hog Day, Steve Wynn’s woes with the Nevada Gaming commission and more–and that’s not even the celebrity news!
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Net neutrality concerns all of us. Actor friend Carl Bressler just gave me the scoop on Facebook on how to petition the FCC to keep the net neutral.
Here’s how to do it, courtesy of Carl:
1. On your computer, not your phone! – go to: www.fcc.gov/ecfs/filings/express
2. Enter under Proceeding the numbers 17-108.
3. In comments, say you support Title 2 oversight of ISPs. Also say that you support net neutrality.
*Fill in the form carefully; they’ve made it less friendly and impossible to fill in by phone, on purpose.
Here was what I wrote to the FCC:
I support Title 2 oversight of ISPs. I support net neutrality. Like the printing press of the 1400s, the internet fundamentally democratized the way we communicate, make it easier for everyone to have a voice–not just leaders or the wealthy. Any attempt to de-neutralize the internet is deeply damaging to our freedom of speech, freedom of press and freedom of assembly and no “free market” consideration should ever infringe on our freedoms of speech, press and assembly.
So many of us actors and other creatives are now really in the business of content creation, just as much as we are in the entertainment biz or the movie biz. The neutral net has created immense opportunities for us to showcase our talents and a net that is not neutral will limit what audiences we can reach. It is important for every creative to fight for net neutrality.