Got #FOMO? Get Curious Instead…

Sometimes, we take too many cues from other people.  They have something, so we should have something.  They’re pursuing something, so we should pursue it too.  Our #fomo overrides our common sense, and even worse, our #fomo leads us to look to others for what we truly want and so our lives our built on comparison and often, jealousy.

The last few weeks, I’ve been throwing around the word “success” often, but I hadn’t fully articulated to myself what success would be for me.  I’d let the culture define what success was–a big house, a fast, expensive car, expensive stuff.  My values had shifted, and my definition of success had indeed changed.  I just didn’t realize it til a week and a half ago.

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We have to get curious.  Especially when we’re contemplating making big shifts, we must get curious about our assumptions.  Would that fast car really make me happy or I am really angsty about the pace at which my ventures are progressing?  Is that big house one I will be happy in or is what I truly desire to be able to travel more?  Once we think we know our values, we get comfortable in them like an old shoe. And then, we tread very familiar paths in that old shoe til we feel lost.

If there’s part of your life that’s not working and/or not satisfying, it might be time to get curious about what you truly value.  You may find that something’s shifted.  Some values stay with us our whole lives, others shift as we learn, grow and experience.

Tomorrow, the Autumnal Equinox, is a great day to get a handle on what’s out of balance in our lives, which often means we’ve been overvaluing some things, people and situations, to the neglect of others.  Unpack the buzzwords you’ve been aspiring to achieve.  What’s success to you?   Peace?  Authenticity?  Get specific and then there will be no #fomo.

Peace on Earth, Peace in Space…

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Oil painting by Robert McCall

My dear friends,

This past year I have really gotten in touch with how much I have to be grateful for.  Even tonight, even when things weren’t going so well over my Christmas dinner out, I found touch points of gratitude and that was the gift of my 2017.  I could always find something to be genuinely grateful for.

For 2018, I think we all need a little more PEACE.  We ask, and sing and talk about “peace on earth” year after year that I think that it becomes tinny with the repetition.  However, I think we need to find a deep and profound peace more than ever.  Even if we disagree with something or someone politically, we need to find peace.  Even if that someone or something, manages to irk us every single time, we need to find peace.

This Christmas Eve, I am committing my 2018 to creating, fostering and maintaining peace.  It was St. Francis of Assisi who popularized what we now call a creche or a manager scene.  And it was also St. Francis who prayed, “make me an instrument of Your peace.”

I love this painting above by Robert McCall.  It points to how small we are, how small many of our problems are, compared to the vastness of the cosmos.  However, I think if we all do our small part to be the peace we are seeking, that can also do so much good.

My Christmas wish for you is to find the peace you are seeking.  If you are seeking peace of mind, I hope you find it.  I hope you create it.  If your heart is at unrest, I hope for you to have a peaceful heart in 2018.  Seekers are finders and I hope you seek peace and find it.

Happiest Holiday to You & Yours!

Much Love,

Kristin