I used to hate tale of Cinderella. First, Cinderella was cheerful about doing housework. Second, she has tiny, delicate feet. I wear an 11W. My shoe options are limited, compared to other women. My feet need space. My whole self needs space.
It seems like plus sized women are not allowed to take up space. . I recently went to a Sears and the plus size section was dwarfed by the petite section. I went to Bloomingdale’s. They don’t even have plus size attire in the store anymore–“online only” I was told, by the employees, many of whom were plus sized. Macy’s has one third of one sales floor dedicated to plus size clothing, compared to two and two-thirds floors of miss and junior sized apparel.
It’s hard not to get frustrated when whole world seems to be telling you, “You don’t belong here.” Yet, so many women around you are similar to you. How can retailers and the culture as a whole invalidate the lives and bodies of so many women?
Take your space, especially in a world where we’re told we’re too big, too “this” or “that”. Find space for you just to be you–online, at home, on the beach, wherever makes you happy. Your body is the vessel of your spirit and my spirit is big–so it needs a bigger vessel. So many of us have pain and shame over weight and image issues, but out of that pain can come a deep compassion for others who haven’t been allowed their “spaces” either, so use that and heal the world with that big heart and big spirit today.
Every moment we are evolving, growing, changing. New cells are formed, others die. We are in a constant state of change. Have compassion for where you are right now, not where you think you “should” be, but where you truly are. You can evolve and change, but you also have to have a deep love for yourself and where you are today. Part of having body positivity is embracing that you are human in a human body and that you are in a process of evolving.
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I was so inspired by last week’s broadcast of What Women Want Talk Radio. We had fashion moguls Megan Grassell and Marissa Lewis on our live broadcast, two young, enterprising ladies making waves in fashion.
Megan Grassell founded Yellowberry, a brassiere company for teens and tweens, after she could not find an age-appropriate bra for her little sister. What I found interesting about Megan’s story was her ability to push back when all department stores offered were push-up bras for her young sister. So often we go with the flow, or resign ourselves with “That’s the way things are.” Megan didn’t accept the status quo when it came to bras for teens and tweens and has made it to a successful business.
Marissa Lewis, founder of Miss Jumpin, came to Los Angeles with dreams of making it as an actress but rekindled her love of fashion and now runs successful and philanthropic enterprise in downtown Los Angeles. Marissa always loved jumpsuits and quite literally followed her dreams to where she is today. Hers is a story of listening to her deep self and knowing when to pivot and adapt. Marissa also has tremendous commitment to her downtown LA community and she exemplifies the moxie and pay-it-forward approach of the millennial businesswoman.
On this week’s What Women Want Talk Radio, Judy Goss and I explored how to make our digital dealings more personal with Olivia Poole and Ali Beck.
Olivia Poole was frustrated when finding new friends in a new city, so she invented, Hey!VINA, an app that connects women to each other, based on your social habits. Night owls, nature lovers, wine connoisseurs and others all can find each other and make plans to socialize outside the app on her online platform. Poole also created ladybrag.com, a site dedicated to helping women embrace their achievements large and small. Too often, Poole said, women do not achieve what they are capable of because, unlike their male counterparts, they do not brag as much, so she created a space for women to do that. I think this idea is amazing. I admitted on air that sometimes I have inadequacy issues and I think this platform is a great way to remedy some of those feelings.
Ali Beck, kindergarten teacher-turned-dating expert, went on 20 dates in 30 days. Beck has tried all the dating apps and in this interview offers insight to keep you happy, healthy and safe while looking for love. With the advent of online dating, women have unique concerns when looking for love and Ali advises on how to avoid catfishing, bread-crumbing and ghosting. Though not a dating app user myself, some of my relationships did start online and it was interesting to hear Ali’s thoughts as she shared her experiences.
In the race to be more productive, we can lose our self-care and inner knowing. Often, we also have a hard time juggling priorities, especially if we are pursing multiple streams of income. This week on What Women Want Talk Radio, Joan Pelzer of Joan Pelzer Media LLC and Pamella Horton of Maven’s Connections shared some great insight and life hacks about not only being more productive, but being productive in meaningful ways.
I have been behind the wheel of some fabulous cars in my time, but nothing beats being in the driver’s seat of the Tesla Model X. The innovative Los Angeles start-up, Green Commuter, gave me the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to take one for a spin at last weekend’s Monsterpalooza and they are trying to give everyone in Los Angeles that chance too!